How to Support Someone With Cancer When You Are Scared Too

If someone you love has cancer, you have probably already asked yourself how to support someone with cancer without making it worse. You want to say the right thing. Meanwhile, you are terrified, and you are not sure you are allowed to be. I want to talk to you today, because most of what gets written

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Just Diagnosed With Cancer — What Doug Would Tell You

If you were just diagnosed with cancer, this episode was made for you. In Part One, my friend Doug DeFouw told us his story. Today I turned the conversation around and asked him about yours. This is Part Two of my conversation with Doug. However, you do not need to have heard Part One to get

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Facing Cancer Alone — Why We Shut the Door, and What It Costs Us

There is a moment right after a diagnosis when almost every one of us does the same thing. We start facing cancer alone — not because anyone abandoned us, but because we quietly decide that is how it has to be. We stop returning calls. We keep the details vague. And we tell ourselves we

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Faith Through Prostate Cancer — Doug’s Story of Not Walking Alone

Today I get to introduce you to my friend Doug DeFouw, and his story of faith through prostate cancer is one of the most honest conversations I have had on this podcast. Doug did not clean it up for us. He told me about the anger, the isolation, and the years he spent trying to

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Faith and Fear During Cancer: You’re Not Failing

If you’re a believer walking through cancer and you still feel afraid, let me say something it took me too long to learn: that fear does not mean your faith is failing. Faith and fear during cancer can live in the same heart at the same time — and God is not disappointed in you

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Finding Peace in the Valley of Cancer

When you’re walking through cancer, you don’t need someone to pretend the valley isn’t real. You need to know you’re not walking it alone. That’s the quiet promise tucked inside the most familiar psalm there is — and it’s where I’ve found a peace in the valley of cancer that I could never have manufactured

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Surrendering to God During Cancer: The Bravest Thing You Can Do

Everything in you wants to fight. To control. To manage every scan, every appointment, every possible outcome. I know, because that was me. But somewhere along my cancer journey, I discovered that surrendering to God during cancer wasn’t the white flag I feared — it was the doorway to the only peace that held when

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God as a Relationship, Not a Resource: Letting Go of Control

Letting go of control might be the hardest thing cancer ever asks of you — especially if you have spent your whole life being the person who figures things out. I know, because I was that person. And the truth I had to learn, the same one figure skater Scott Hamilton had to learn, is

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Either Way You Win: Trusting God With Your Cancer Journey

When I talk about trusting God through cancer, I am not talking about pretending you are not scared. I spent the first stretch of my own journey gripping every fear with both hands, so I understand the pull to control what feels completely out of control. But somewhere along the way — in the middle

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